Apologies for the long interval of posts–let’s just say a certain someone decided to play with our laptop, thus resulting in a shut down of all computer activities for a while. Anyway, we’re back and running.
November 22nd is the feast of St. Cecilia, patron of musicians and Church music and what a glorious thing of which to be patron! It is said she earned this patronage because she sang to God while she was dying. She was an early Christian, dying sometime around the late 1st century (can’t get much earlier than that, no?), and we know there was a church dedicated to her in Rome as early as the 5th century. She is a splendid saint, with a myriad of devotees (especially amongst musicians), but our little family will always have a special place in our hearts for her because her feast is also Teddy’s birthday into the Church.
No, November 22nd is not Teddy’s actual birthday–that is November 19th (the feast of St. Elizabeth of Hungry). The feast of St. Cecilia is his baptismal birthday. I can hear you doing the simple math now…yes, Teddy was three days old when he was baptized. Oh shock, horror! I can’t tell you how many people of our family, friends, colleagues, and even simple acquaintances were so surprised to hear of Teddy’s baptismal date. Even some of our Catholic friends couldn’t believe it. The response was always the same: “Oh but why? You really don’t think anything will happen to him, do you? He’s a healthy baby.” Well, let me, once and for all, answer those questions (especially considering we’re still getting them).
First, for those of you who don’t know/know but don’t agree, let me quickly outline the Catholic understanding of the sacrament of baptism:
- It is one of the seven sacraments, instituted by Christ (we see this in John 3:5 and Mark 16:15-16).
- Baptism washes away the guilt of original sin (and actual sin, if any have been committed).
- Baptism is essential to salvation (although we leave all judgment to God)
- Water, the words “I baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,” and a proper intention all must be present for a baptism to be valid.
Ok, so that’s the very, very basic understanding of it. Catholics do not view baptism merely as a symbol of our personal relationship with God, but as an actual grace-giving function that provides the necessary initiation into the Body of Christ. I refer you here for a more academic discussion.
Second, we had a lot of people ask us, as “traditionalists,” if we believe in Limbo, and that’s why we baptized Teddy so early. The short answer is no…and yes, in a way. Limbo has never been a defined doctrine of the Church (meaning, it has never been declared a doctrine or dogma by any pope). Many popes and Catholics throughout the ages, however, have viewed Limbo as a good explanation to the question about innocents who die without baptism (because baptism is necessary to salvation). In a way, it makes sense. In another way, however, it doesn’t–why would God create a soul only to keep it separated from Him forever? Not being God, I don’t know. Our yes and no answer simply means the Church has never required us to believe in Limbo, but it has never forbidden us from believing in it either, and that being the case, we simply don’t know one way or the other for sure. My gut tells me no, but then, what does happen to the soul of an unbaptized baby? Again, not being God, I can’t know.
Which brings me to point three: babies die. It’s tragic. But, it does happen. No, we don’t live in a world with high levels of infant mortality, and yes, Teddy was a healthy newborn. But, he (or any of us) could die any minute–a car accident, SIDS (when he was a newborn), choking, etc. The point is no one ever knows the hour he will be called. And as parents, Jon and I see it as our supreme duty to try to ensure our son’s salvation. Yes, he has free will, and yes, he may (well, probably will) lose the innocence of his baptismal vows, but it is our role as his parents to do everything within our power to put him on the path to Heaven. And that’s really what it’s all about. We need to feed, cloth, and shelter our son; we need to love, support, and educate him. But we need to make sure he spends eternity in happiness with God.
Therefore, point four, why wait? Just so we can throw him a bigger party and have him smile for his baptism picture? No thanks. And let me tell you, we all three slept peacefully that night almost one year ago.



















